How long should sex take?
I’m often asked ‘How long should sex take?’
Oy! How long is a piece of string? The answer very much depends on what you want to tie! Similarly it depends on the parties having sex. Paulo Coelho thinks that the average sexual encounter from the minute you start taking your clothes off to completion is 11 minutes.
If statistics are to be believed then the average man orgasms in 0 to 3 minutes and the average woman up to 20 minutes! Big difference! If one of the parties is on any medication, has a medical condition, or is anti-depressants that can increase to 40 minutes.
My standard answer to ‘How long should sex take?’ is that it should take as long as is required to satisfy BOTH partners. Both quickies and all night long are appropriate in any given circumstance.
Trouble arises when one partner orgasms too quickly and the other takes too long. There are several exercises and suggestions for couples with this problem. By following the exercises we can actually get couples closer to each other.
Want to know what other questions I get asked? Read How do I know if I’ve had an orgasm